Bury the Hatchet

I was up at my parents this past weekend for our annual Dogwood Festival Trail Ride fun! Its always a good time riding the mules and wagons,  getting to chillax with my ‘country roots’ , and with the gorgeous spring weather and dogwood trees blooming. :) (see pics below!)

Last week was a R-E-A-L-L-Y off and out of control week for me. I felt like I could’ve eaten the house down – (no thanks to pms-grrrr!! As our WW Leader Karen would say- but I’m not bitter! haha)! I’ll spare you the food craziness but just know that it was B-A-D!  So I apologize for my sporadic posting – sometimes its for the best for me to not drag others down when its that bad.

On the way home from my parents house I passed a church with a catch-y saying on their sign that read:

“When you bury the hatchet, don’t mark the grave” 

WOW. I instantly knew what they were saying and that it was meaning burying the hatchet with others and create peace……but I chuckled to myself because my thoughts turned immediately to –  bury the hatchet with myself  – old bad habits, thoughts, behaviors, my old self- and don’t mark the grave – don’t ever go back!

My thoughts were – first off it is SO IMPORTANT that we stop being so hostile and critical of ourselves! We need to experience PEACE on our journey.  Life is hard enough – we don’t need to be even harder on ourselves.  Second, as we make good behavior changes we need to accept those new habits and bury our old bad habits – and don’t mark the grave – don’t ever intend on picking them up again. Now don’t get me wrong,  there will be times we get in situations or around old familiar stomping grounds and we indulge…..but that does NOT mean that we are going back to those old habits!!! After eating a weekend of my ‘old’ foods I was MORE than ready to get back on track the next day because I could feel a huge difference after eating that junk. I was actually craving a big green leafy salad!! (that is not what  my old self would have said!!! haha!)

Recognizing the difference in how we feel and what habits we have is a HUGE KEY in our journey!! The next step is making sure we always get ourselves back on track -and THAT is what keeps us moving forward!!


All we need to do is try the best we can each day and in each situation-  some days will be better than others and some days will be worse…..but it is OK.  It all works out!  So let’s bury our hatchets (with ourselves) so we can have more peace in our lives and don’t mark that grave!! 😉


A couple pics from our Trail Ride :)

Gabe was lovin’ it!



our mule train :)


lined up and ready for the parade! 😉

My Daddy on his riding mule Emma


All the grandkids


Me with my Mama


(will post more soon!)










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About Carman

36 year old military wife of 18 years and stay at home mom to 4 incredible kids (3 girls ages 17, 11, 11 and our son is 6). After my 4th, and final baby, I decided I wanted to be more active, healthier, happier, and to be an example to my kids. I joined Weight Watchers and started using the Points Plus program to learn portion control, moderation, and develop healthier habits. I also used the dietSNAPS app to track my meals and it was such a life changer for me to literally *see* what I was putting in my body! Cyndi, Lexy and I created this blog to be accountability partners and that has been a huge key to this journey! I love to cook and I love converting my favorite recipes into a healthier version for my family to enjoy! I love the after effects of exercising :) I love challenging myself to fitness goals to change things up and in doing so I have run numerous 5K/10K's, several half marathons, one full 26.2 marathon, and a Tough Mudder. I love circuit training, weight training, and running sprints. My goal is to inspire others to take their health seriously, and to show how small changes can lead to big results.

One thought on “Bury the Hatchet

  1. Peggy

    Hey Carman, good to see you posting again. Loved the photos from your Trail Ride. What a perfect way to force your body to slow down and enjoy the scenery. Your analogy of “burying the hatchet” was spot on although, I swear, it seems that I’m doing this almost on a daily basis but I tell myself that this too shall pass. Enjoy your day.


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